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sábado, 18 de enero de 2014
Why teens do drugs?
One reason often heard from people using drugs is that they do them to feel better. In reality, it feels good because most drugs act directly on the "pleasure center"--the limbic system--in the brain. The first few times it may be considered recreational use. Some might light up a cigarette at a party. They may not consider themselves a "true-smoker," but they do it to feel good or to "look cool". Their problem? Drugs don't care what the reason you have to use them. The same effects occur whether you're drinking to have fun or drinking to forget a problem, whether you're doing drugs to see how they feel or doing them to be one of the crowd. People do drugs to change the way they feel. Often they want to change their current situation. If they're depressed, they want to become happy. If they are stressed or nervous, they want to relax, and so on.
Teenagers often take drugs because they want to fit in. No one wants to be the only one “not participating”. No one wants to be left out. So sometimes they make bad decisions, like taking drugs, to cover-up their insecurities. They don't think about how drugs can isolate you from your friends and family. They forget what happened on the last time they used them and how things turned out. Or maybe they just don't realize that other people around them who aren't using drugs. Lots of teens would also do drugs because they want to escape or relax. They often say things like “I’m so stressed, I need to get messed up!” or “Drugs help me relax” or anything along those lines. What they're really saying is "Drinking or doing drugs is just easier than dealing with my problems or reaching out for help." The thing is, the problems are still there and sooner or later they have to deal with them.
Most teenagers take drugs because they want to rebel. Sometimes people turn to drugs not so much for themselves, but to make a statement against someone else, such as their families or society in general. Somehow taking drugs makes them outlaws or more individual. The problem is that by taking drugs it will eventually rob these people of their ability to be independent, because it makes them dependent--on drugs and their drug connections. Teens also do drugs because they want to experiment. It's human nature to want to experiment. Trying things out helps you decide if they're right for you. But it's also human nature to avoid things that are obviously bad for you. You wouldn't experiment with jumping off the Brooklyn Bridge or the Grand Canyon; you know it will not turn out the best. The point is, there are a million better things to experiment with -- sports, music, dying your hair, seeing bad movies, eating spicy food... than getting involved with alcohol, tobacco or other drugs.
In conclusion by taking drugs, people often think they can be the person they want to be. And for a while, that illusion seems to be the truth. The problem? It isn't real. You haven't changed a thing; you've only distorted it for a little while, like in a day-dream.
Why parents are sometimes strict?
“Spare the rod and spoil the child.” Said Samuel Butler in his poem Hudibras. Discipline. Nowadays, parents choose to be strict for many reasons. Parents may be strict because of the mistakes they had in the past. There are some parents that were raised strictly so they continue the trend. They feel or believe that their parents raised them this way because they wanted the trend to past on. But most parents are strict because they care for their children.
For example, if your parents make your curfew 10 p.m. and not midnight, your parents know that you'll be sharing the road with fewer drunk drivers on your way home. When they limit your phone or computer time, they get you in the habit of living a balanced life, so that you'll manage your time better as an adult. When they make you stay and wash every last dish before you go out, they're teaching you how to be responsible later on. The list could go on.
Though it may sound odd, children of incredibly strict parents have also been shown to be more likely to develop weight problems. Based on data gathered from the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, researcher Kyung E. Rhee determined that children with overly strict parents were nearly five times more likely to be obese. One cause for this statistic is thought to be that children of strict parents rely on ideas like "clean your plate" or food as rewards, instead of eating healthy, or until full.
Mark J. Penn in his book “Microtrends” writes about strict parents vs. permissive parents. He brings out a 2006 poll and statistics to show that no matter which group of parents are polled, “most parents think they’re tough”. 52% of parents think say they are strict vs. 37% who say they are permissive. 91% say “most parents today are too easy on their kids” vs. only 3% who say “most parents today are too strict.” So Penn clarifies: “We’ve got a bunch of parents who think that they’re strict, but no one else is. The truth is, they’re only half-right. Today in America, nearly all parents are more permissive with their kids than in generations past. When it comes to permissiveness, today’s parents are, like the title of a popular book, in a state of denial.”
“It is necessary.” Responds a 28 year-old woman on the question: ‘Why are parents, sometimes, strict?’ “I am a mother of three and rules for my kids are set in place for good reason. For either their safety or teach them discipline, respect or even dignity. There are other many reasons why we have to be firm and strict at times, but I can honestly say that my motive for this is for the concern and wellbeing of my children. My mom was a single parent who worked two jobs and there were no cell phones at the time, but she was always in my business. She randomly called home and I better be there to pick up the phone or she would come home from work immediately. These are the same expectations I have for my children so you better believe I will be in their business. Teens are young adults, but their brain is still not mature enough to make clear decisions about everything” She finishes. Parents are strict because they care for their children. We can conclude that parents just want to conduct their kids through the right path because they need guidance as much as they need freedom.
Compare and Contrast: "Cesar’s Way" and "Pack of Lies"
Comparing and contrasting two items can be challenging. The excerpt from “Cesar’s Way” and “Pack of Lies” are very different. Cesar Millan expresses that the best way to teach dog obedience is by being the pack’s leader. While, Mark Derr thinks that Millan’s ways are harmful. They both have some areas which seem to be valid, although contrarian in point of views.
The main topic of both excerpts is the behavior of dogs. However, Mark Derr does not agree with Cesar Millan’s dog-training methods. Derr claims that Millan’s method for obedience includes physical and psychological intimidation. He also establishes the fact that Millan points out that one should not reward the dog if they do something correctly, which in his opinion is not right.
Derr explains in his excerpt that Millan uses aggressive methods to produce intimidation. I would be against these practices because dogs are living, breathing creatures that can feel pain. However, I agree with Millan’s statement about letting the dog know that you’re the pack’s leader. The dog must know who the boss is because you should be in control of the dog; the dog shouldn’t control of you. How Millan expresses that the dog is the leader when he walks ahead of you or barks when you feed him, I found this a bit exaggerated. It’s probably their instinct to behave the way they do because, after all, they’re animals. Undoubtedly, there’s nothing wrong in rewarding your dog if he behaves well. Derr also expresses a quotation about a doctor who is a wolf expert. He comments about the behavior of wolf packs, there are rarely any dominance contests at all. While, Millan’s “personal” experience is describing how Jada Pinkett Smith handles four Rottweilers because of her energy, therefor implying that she is the “pack’s” leader.
In my opinion, I feel a little more inclined towards Derr’s point of view. Even though you must let your dog know who the leader is, there is no reason to be so strict. Using physical and psychological intimidation is considered abuse, even if you just want to teach your dog how to behave correctly. A reward once in a while is always good for the self-esteem of humans and animals. It lets them know that they’re doing something good, they’re in the right path and encourages them to keep doing what they’re doing because it assures that it is the right thing to do.
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